PMA: Positive Mental Attitude


My wife is due to go back to work in January after being on maternity leave for our daughter. So she went in to see her HR department the other day to discuss this and see if part-time would be an option. Before going on maternity leave, her manager assured her that she would be able to do part-time and made all these promises.

She lied.

The response she got today was that she can have her old job back @ fulltime (as this is the legal requirement in the UK). Obviously, this means more money coming into the house, but it also means more money going out in nursery fee’s for my little girl. But the money is not really the sore point. Both my wife and I want her to go part-time so she can bring up our daughter, not some stranger. We’re all up for her going to a nursery for 2 days a week so she won’t be as clingy to us and become more sociable, but she needs parental guidance in life.

So this has left us in rather a difficult situation.

But as I went for my lunch today, I thought “sod it, this is a oppotunity in the offering!” My wife is a skilled photographer and loves it with a passion! She’s done wedding photography in the past, family portraits, children’s portraits etc. So I have told her we’ll agree to her going back fulltime in January (as we MUST have her income) but in the mean time, I want her pushing the photography work for all it’s worth and make this her business and main income. Her big problem is confidence and I’m hoping that this situation is the push she needs to overcome her shyness and embrace this talent she has and make some good money from it.

The moral of the story is: True, bad things happen. I don’t believe good things happen to good people. I believe all things happen to all people, but it’s how you react and deal with these problems that make you happy or sad. POsitive mental attitude people!

If anyone is looking for a photographer along the south coast of England, please contact me and she’ll give you a fantastic rate for being a blog follower!

My First Fight


The time has come. My first San da tournament has arrived. Well, I say arrived, it’s in November. It’s a novices tournament so I shouldn’t come up against any amazing fighters that will decimate me and my coach thinks I’m more than ready. Just one problem really…… The wife don’t want me to fight!

As I play rugby, this weekend is going to be a tiring one and I’m not sure how she’ll take it as it’ll mean saturday rugby and Sunday San da. Which doesn’t leave much time for family. This should be ok cause I’ll take some time off work. Just not sure how I’ll approach the situation, let alone tell her I’m fighting!!

I have to do this though. Come April, the British championships are taking place and my coach thinks I’ve a good chance, so this tournament will be great experience for me. Just need to persuade the mrs that San da isn’t as violent as mma and I’ll probably get more hurt playing rugby.

Wish me luck. Anyone fancy coming to watch, drop me a line for details. Support is MORE than welcome!!

Kindness Vs Fairness


I work next door to a Baptist Church and in this church they have a little cafe bit where people can go and get sandwiches/crisps/drinks etc. all at reasonable prices and the sandwiches are always filled out nicely. As I was waiting for my change today, I did consider saying “put it in the charity pot” or something like that. But then I thought no (b*****d aren’t I?) I’m not that well off. But it did get me thinking……

Imagine, if you will, that there was no kindness in the world. No-one did anything for anybody for nothing, out of the kindness of their heart. Pretty sad place. Or is it? See, if we lived in a FAIR world, would we need kindness?

  • In a fair world, people would get paid a fair wage for a fair days work. So pretty much instantly, you wipe out slavery and people working in third world sweat shops will get paid a decent wage and therefore raise their living standards.
  • Corruption would be eradicated. No more fat-cat politicians sat in desperately poor countries soaking up all of the natural wealth. This would then mean more money for countries that need it for education/health/public services etc.
  • Resources would be shared fairly. So many countries in the world have natural resources, but almost none of them are shared equally. If everything were shared equally and fairly, for a fair price would be fine, the whole world could share in everything and want for nothing.
  • Famine would be all but a memory. True, fairness cannot compete with disease,weather or natural disasters, but as the world’s food would be shared and traded equally, the hit of such things wouldn’t be anywhere near as hard as it currently stands.
  • If all in the world is shared fairly, envy will be drastically reduced. Everyone should have their fair share and thus be content.

In my mind, the list can go on and on. Kindness is an amazing thing, but greed and envy will always hold a higher place in the human being, thus meaning people’s kindness will always be fighting a losing battle. Even out the playing field and everyone will be happy.

Usurper To The Crown


I have a problem. There is treason afoot within the court.

They say a man’s home is his castle. This is true, but my kingdom has always been the rugby field. Here, I have felt safe and secure, knowing that my skills and abilities will protect me. They are my moat and my fortifications, my shirt is my crown and my team mates are my army. Now, it seems, one of the foot soldiers dares to offer up a potential new king who wishes to claim my crown for himself.

During the off-season, some of the foot soldiers converted to the new religion of “rugby league“. This is not a treacherous act as the union was not being played and so was allowed by royal decree. However, whilst at this new church, another was discovered. A strong being with physical powers comparable to myself.

This has caused me considerable concern. Although my royal power has strengthened of late thanks in part to losing weight and getting fitter, this upstart is still a threat. A battle was had yesterday in which he was given a frontline position. His strength is undeniable. The remaining skills necessary to wear the crown were not on show. After seeing what he had in the heat of battle, I’m not excessively concerned now. True, I’m going to have to work harder to keep the crown, but with solid training I believe my natural god given talent will shine through. DEUS VULT!!

Failing that, there’s always bribery.

I’m Addicted To The New Gadgets


I gave in about a year and a half ago and got myself an iPhone 3G. Before this, I’d always thought of myself as up to date with modern technologies and liked to think I was “in the know”. However, I’d always held off buying into these things as most of them turn into fads and never REALLY get going or become useful (point of case, Mini Disc players. HUGE FLOP) So I took my time getting the iPhone and I’m glad I did. I think I got it at the perfect time, the crest of the wave as it were.

Since collecting my third arm (as it feels like now), I’ve found myself becoming more and more attracted to gadgets and other computing technology. I love my iPhone 4, with a passion. Everything I need is in it. The only down side is the size. I’m finding more and more that I want something with a bigger screen.

Then what happens, Apple release the iPad…….. Talk about reading my mind!!! However, when I see the price, my heart dropped. I couldn’t justify a bigger iPhone for £500! But I love the idea of having something about this size that does everything, especially as my pc is in the final death throes and will soon go to the scrap heap in the sky.

So I’ve been reading up closely on the tablet revolution that appears to be sweeping the world. Android tablets being promised that will be iPad killers etc. To be honest, they’re all pants. Apple has too much of a strangle hold at the minute. Unless Google release an amazing piece of kit for a fraction of the price, they won’t unseat King Jobs.

But these tablets have brought my attention a piece of kit that’s gone under my radar. NETBOOKS!! Basically, a smaller laptop, screen the same size as a tablet, but with a keyboard (my opinion on touch-screen typing is still out) and the starting costs are about £150! To boot with this, you get USB ports, ethernet, bluetooth, external storage options, larger internal hard drive (starting about 160gb). Job done!

But then I wonder, is this one of those fads I’ve been so good at avoiding in the past? My iPhone is amazing and my pc is dying, so I do need another computing option, but whether to go PC, netbook or tablet is the question.

Any advice on this subject, please help me. I’m looking mainly for surfing, e-mail, chat, blogging, media (music, films and books) and a few online games.