My Parenting Fear

I’m slightly concerned.

My wife gave birth to my baby girl last Wednesday. I’m over the moon! I totally love my little angel. I’ve always thought I’d make a good dad. Now I’m not so sure.

I love my little girl. She’s absolutely perfect. She only cries for food and nappy change. But when she cries, I feel powerless. Sure I change her nappy and wind her, but I can’t feed her (we’re breast-feeding). And at the moment, all she does is feed. I feel quite helpless as I don’t want to burden my wife with everything but what can I do?!

I’m worried my frustration will effect my relationship with my daughter. I know it’s only a matter of time before we can express milk so I can feed her and she’ll soon become more active, but I really feel like I’m struggling.

My wife, bless her, is being a rock. None of this baby blues for her. She’s loving being a mum, handling the feeds with ease, not getting stressed at all, looks fantastic and is sleeping well (true, baby is helping by only waking two times a night so far). She’s trying to comfort me by saying I’ll be happier once I can feed her.

I love being a dad. I was holding her earlier and my heart just filled with love for her. I just hope my inadequacies don’t have an adverse effect on my bond with her. All I want is for her to love and be a daddy’s girl.

The Wife’s Pregnant!

Yes, I am a man and the little guys are firing live rounds! My wife is pregnant in the first few months of trying. Pretty impressive as they say it can take up to 6 months for the pill to flush out of the system.

I have to admit, being a dad has always been my BIGGEST fear. I’ev been petrified for years. I was always under the impression I could hardly look after myself, let alone a new baby. Plus, I’m quite a selfish person. I don’t mind admitting it, but I like my own time and to be left alone, which having a baby slightly cuts down on.

Anyway, the wife has been banging on about kids for years. I agreed once we got married, we could try (thinking it would take a while!)

So once we did the test and the result came back positive, I have to admit, I was over the moon! I couldn’t believe how happy I was. Really strange feeling, being so scared, but once it happens, being so happy.

Anyway, the little ‘un is due on our first wedding anniversary. We’re not going to find out the sex, fancy having a little surprise.

The only draw back is the “morning” sickness. Well, I use the term lightly. All day moaning sickness is probably a better description!! I’m doing so much to make her comfortable, I feel like I’m going to drop! Cooking, cleaning, tidying up, running baths, making beds, all this after a horribly long day at work. I’m exhausted and all the sympathy is for her! So unfair……….

Still, be worth it when the child is 18 and can legally take the Old Man to the pub for a few bevvies.